When It's Over

There are so many romantic films nowadays, both local and foreign.  I love watching them.  But I cannot help but get affected at times, especially when it's about separation.  

I hate breaking up...I hate seeing two people who were so in love and are now falling apart...

I am a hopeless romantic, yes! They say Pisceans are really like that, plus I am a Sheep, so I guess that's the reason why.  

What I do understand is that, Piscean or not, a Sheep or not, I used to believe in true love as a child, and still believe on it up to this very minute.  (Though, I don't see a point why two people will get themselves to marriage just because the girl gets pregnant)  That's another point, I guess, a different one.  

I strongly agree that two people who are so in love have the right reasons to get married, whether the nature is on their side or not.  But the moment they get married, I don't want them to separate nor fall apart.  As married couple, they have to do their best to make the marriage work.  Divorce or annulment shouldn't be an option to them.

But until when?  Does that mean they have to stay married even if they are no longer happy with each other?

The answer is both Yes and No.  Yes!  They have to stay married even if they say they are no longer happy with each other.  There are ways.  They only have to open their hearts to their partners.  Easy to say, hard to do.  Yeah!  You can say that.  But they have to try and try many times, to rekindle the flames of love they once had for each other.  Try looking into the good qualities of the person they used to love and stop comparing them to others.  This way, they will have room for the renewal of their love.

The other answer is also an option.  No!  They should not stay married.  For what reasons?  well, what can make me agree that a couple should file a divorce is when there is violence that is happening.  If physically, one is being hurt by the other party.  That would be a reason for moving out.  No one has the right to physically abuse anybody.  It is a big sign of disrespect for me.  Not even a slap on the face, a hair being pulled.  No physical abuse can be reasonable for me.

If physical abuse is the reason for getting out of the marriage, then, it is really over.  Even if the party who caused the pain will say sorry and will promise not to do it again, getting back to the relationship should never be opted.  When one is abused, it really is OVER!